- Your journey from trauma to transformation is incredibly powerful. Can you share a pivotal moment that marked the beginning of your healing and the eventual birth of The Rebirth of the Soul?
Thank you. I believe everything started when I was at a crisis center. It felt like I was watching a movie — I suddenly realized how serious my situation was. My life was hanging by a thin thread. Experiencing partner violence was a huge shock because I hadn’t seen it coming, and I was unprepared. That moment was a wake-up call, and I decided I wanted to use my experience to help others. I quickly took on a role at the crisis center where others in similar situations looked to me for guidance, because I understood both the victim’s and the perpetrator’s strategies.
But I didn’t realize back then that my own healing journey was far from over. It continued for a long time. I chose a different way forward — I didn’t rush into new relationships, and I didn’t care much about material possessions. I was surprised at how fiercely some people attacked me, but for me, it was about mentally recovering through deep inner work. Sharing my story publicly was part of that process, to create understanding. That’s also when The Rebirth of the Soul truly began.
My personal development has been immense. I don’t just feel like I’ve grown — I feel like I’ve been reborn. I believe that being “reborn” was essential for my survival, and it truly worked for me. Still, today, I sometimes ask myself, “How did I do it?” It feels like fate played a part in my healing journey. - You’ve been vocal about confronting taboo subjects like narcissistic abuse and spiritual adversity. What are some of the biggest misconceptions people have about these topics, and how do you help break those barriers?
Yes, I want to help change some perspectives that are often seen as weaknesses but are actually signs of inner strength. Quiet resilience or calm strength is often underestimated. Many people don’t realize how powerful it can be. There’s a misconception that you should fear someone who doesn’t speak loudly, but it’s not about fear — it’s about awareness. Quiet, observant people tend to be highly perceptive and analytical, even if they don’t show it outwardly.
Through exploring these topics, I’ve learned that narcissism isn’t gender-specific. Many assume it’s mostly men who are narcissistic, but I’ve encountered more narcissistic women than men. While these women might not be physically violent like some narcissistic men, they can be controlling and skilled at gaslighting. I’ve seen narcissistic women misuse the system, even in crisis centers, sometimes pretending to be victims for revenge.
Another misconception is that feminism can sometimes be seen as narcissistic or disconnected from true equality. While that’s not always true, extremism on any side can distort the original goal. Sometimes, men are unfairly branded as villains in these situations, but under extreme pressure, anyone can lose their balance.
My goal is to break these barriers by educating others about the true nature of these dynamics. Recognizing that behaviors like narcissism are complex and not gender-specific helps foster understanding. I see narcissism as a shadow or a part of ourselves that we need to let go of — what I call “the grey zones.” When leaving a narcissistic environment, it’s like fighting with yourself about becoming the person you’re told you are not. - Many people feel defined by their past pain or societal limitations. How do you guide individuals to rewrite their narrative and embrace a path of inner rebirth?
The key is how you think about yourself — everything begins in your mind. For example, I was told I experienced violence because I was weak, unable to stand up for myself, or easy to manipulate. But I don’t see myself that way. If others see you that way, maybe they’re the wrong people. I realized this when I told myself, “Let’s accept that’s what they believe, but I refuse to be that person anymore.” Every time I tried to reclaim my strength and refused to let others define me, I faced resistance — as if others wanted me to stay weak. That was an eye-opener: they wanted me to be exactly as they wished.
If you have a kind heart, a gentle soul, and you’re genuinely good — not perfect, but real — how can that be weakness? If the world labels it as such, then there’s something wrong with how we see strength. I’ve also learned what narcissism really is, and it’s not necessarily about weakness. With my own traumas, it could have been me affected by it too.
I remember once being in conflict about this in a difficult relationship, where I was asked if I just wanted to give up everything. But I refused — that became a struggle. Many talk about selling their souls for success, but I believe true surrender happens when you give up the good within yourself — when you let others manipulate your soul because you can’t hold on to who you are.
My way of helping others is to show that rewriting your story is possible. It’s about changing your thoughts, rediscovering your strength, and understanding that your worth isn’t determined by others’ opinions. It’s a journey of inner rebirth — rediscovering your true self and learning to thrive, regardless of past trauma or societal limits. - The Rebirth of the Soul is described as a global initiative. How do you foster a sense of community and connection among people who come from vastly different cultural and personal backgrounds?
I believe everything comes down to balance. We can all learn from each other, regardless of cultural differences. Maybe it’s destiny that we meet our paths — to learn and build bridges, not walls. I often say that if you’re a mix of two cultures, like many people today, then you’re a bridge between those worlds. The same goes for religion. I don’t follow just one, but I’ve taken parts from different traditions that resonate with me, creating my own understanding.
It’s also about understanding and accepting people for who they are. Embracing our differences and recognizing that everyone’s background and beliefs enrich our shared human experience helps build community. It’s about seeing the common humanity beneath the surface and valuing the diversity each person brings. - You speak often about resilience being a process of continuous rebirth. What practices or principles do you personally live by to stay grounded and aligned in your mission, especially during challenging times?
Resilience is rooted in your inner child. I realized this when I committed fully to healing myself. I went deep into my childhood to understand who I am and who I was at my core — before the world started defining me. Through this process, I found a lot of self-love and discovered my innocence.
That’s why I chose to work on myself this way, rather than focusing on material things. I knew my children had experienced trauma too, so I aimed to build their resilience while they were still young, rather than just giving them things. I believe that by doing this, I help ensure they can handle whatever comes their way.
When I face tough times, I connect with that inner child — my safe space where nothing can touch me. I often find myself laughing at challenges because, honestly, try me. I’ve been through worse. That inner strength and connection keep me grounded, guiding me through even the hardest moments.
